Okay so I’m a technophile but also phobic. I ghost around on here and I reject apps like crazy even though I used to make them (guess why).
Anyways I can only speak for my phobia around New Apps.
My big bugaboo is Notifications. If I get a million notifications that’s a guarantee I’m gonna ignore them. Switch them off immediately.
Notifications are a guilt trip that sounds too much like everyone who wanted me to remember things I didn’t remember and just become the new person I tune out BUT. They can be useful in doses.
If I don’t have any control it’s just another thing I’m going to fail at. Like the 5 billion emails I was afraid to click or the person I really liked and forgot the name of. Another big F.
So. My cure is come to the tech whatever it is on my own terms. For me, anon is better. Low notification until I get to know it is better. That’s me. I actually really love gadgets my issue is social fear. I’m not sure what part of tech is scary to you.
If your problem isn’t as social as mine I’m gonna guess it’s still overwhelm, so try to choke the firehose. Make it smaller, cut it into bites.
Tech is complicated and has a lot of pieces and also has a lot of social status all tied up in it. Lots of noise. Trying to get to know it is like trying to learn to dance at a rave. Nightmare.
I never learned to love tech watching videos or talking to people who spout acronyms.
I pushed buttons and broke stuff. Alone on my own time.
Make it safe. Pick a free thing and push buttons till it crashes. Make a garbage drawing. Do a bad video edit. Make a loop of a text rocket. Whatever.
I don’t know your specific situation but every time I got over a big icky fear or learned to like something I did it in a sandbox.
Find your sandbox mark it out no nags or bullies or critics allowed. Play. Mess it up.
Run into a problem with a specific solution and then ask someone who isn’t a jerk about it.
Prioritize Not Jerk Allies at first. Your non jerk friend that’s equal or barely better than you is better than a judgy expert. And might be able to stand the judgy expert enough to ask for you. If you find a non judgy expert treat them like gold.
No matter what people who make tech their identity say tech is not serious business. It’s not an old dad in a suit asking you why you don’t remember Nixon, it’s a stoned friend you don’t get because they keep going off on tangents. You’re not dumb for not getting it, it’s a maze and it’s not documented in an ideal way.
Half of why tech is intimidating to newbies is because making it is a team effort and none of us makers are comic book geniuses. We don’t 100% know what the hell is going on either. There’s a lot. If you don’t get specific it’ll just spray you in the face.
Hardware? Software? Mechanical? Electrical? Something I didn’t name? Pick one thing that’s relevant and scary and play around with it until it breaks, then try to figure out why.