Any other military dependents?


Hi all!

I recently got married (within the last 6 months) and my wife is active duty in the Army. Of course, now that I’m a dependent I am switching to TriCare (the military healthcare). My psychiatrist who I have been seeing for the past 3 years is not covered under my new insurance so I have to find a new psychiatrist, which is fine because I have been really unhappy with my current one. I recently went to my first consult at the military clinic so that I could start receiving my healthcare and also to get a referral for a therapist/ psychiatrist. The appointment was nearly an hour of me giving my life history, especially with regards to my mental health. I have been treated for anxiety and depression for the past 6 or so years and for ADHD for the past 3 years.

The doctor tried telling me that he thinks it is possible that the symptoms that I attribute to me having ADHD might just be symptoms of improperly treated anxiety and depression. I KNOW that I have ADHD because nothing has ever made more sense, but since I was good in school up until the second year or so of high school, he doubts it. Also, I am very much of the combined type ADHD, skewing more towards the inattentive side. I feel that so many physicians are not taking the care to keep up to date on the research of mental disorders (especially with ADHD) so if you were not bouncing off the walls hyperactive as a kid, you cannot POSSIBLY have ADHD.

If you have read this far, I am very impressed. But what I’m getting at with this long rant is…

Are there any other military dependents who have had this same issue? I know from experience with my wife, that the military is very dismissive and ignorant when it comes to mental disorders. How did you get around this issue? Is there hope, or are all military physicians like this?


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Sorry, not connected to the military but wanted to show some support.

On the one hand I suppose it’s a good thing that a doctor engages his/her brain rather than blindly issuing meds but on the other hand:

Professionals? What’s the point of being a trained and registered doctor if even your colleagues think your diagnosis is ‘just an opinion’? Oh. Poop. I guess that’s why it’s called ‘getting a second opinion’… But that’s different, that’s when the patient isn’t satisfied with the answer.

It doesn’t sound great, in any case. Can you ask them to contact your previous doctor?

Good luck!

Oh, and congratulations by the way :smile:



You can request a second opinion or a change of Primary Care Manager (PCM). Unfortunately, under Tricare you have to have the referral from your PCM to see a specialist, like a psychologist or psychiatrist. Next time, tell them what they want to hear so you can get the referral and have a specialist diagnose you. You bounced off of the walls, got kicked out of schools for being too active, etc.

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Hey, Tess.

It can definitely be frustrating when your doctor is dismissive. I’m an Army sergeant first class, so I have quite a bit of experience navigating the military health care system.

First thing to know is that you always have the right to a second opinion. When you make your appointment, you can request not to see the same doctor. If you are having issues getting seen by someone else, you can call the patient advocate for your medical facility. He/she should be able to help you get seen by another on base provider if they have one, or get you referred out to someone else locally.

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Hi , i just saw this and im ex Armyuk but at the time i didnt know i had adhd . Now i was going to join the uk reserves but i dont know if i should say about my diagnosis as ive looked through the medical paperwork and mental health even though this isnt is still in that grey area of you know being accepted back etc




I’m sure the UK requirements are different than US. For the US Army, ADHD is a disqualifier for entry. I only recently received my diagnosis and the general policy for things like this is that you can continue service so long as you can receive treatment that won’t inhibit your ability to deploy.

I would never recommend being dishonest about your medical conditions on your application, as there is a reason that they make certain things disqualifiers. Additionally, there is also the possibility of getting caught up in legal repercussions for a fraudulent enlistment. In the US, lying on these forms is a punishable offense, and I’m sure it is similar in the UK.

If you want some resources about joining, I’d recommend going on the British army subreddit and asking those guys some questions.



Ive been a soilder in the Rifles but that was along time ago but its since ive only just recently got a diagnosis but yeah i know what your saying and honesty is the best policy … also it never affected my capability at all while serving. Cheers for message advice onboard. :uk::us::uk::us:



Always glad to help a brother across the pond. :call_me_hand:

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Thanks for the help brother :call_me_hand::us::uk::us::uk: