Any parents of ADHDers?

I have a 9-year-old daughter with ADHD. She’s…unique.

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Not yet, that could be a good category, parenting.

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My 8 year old is very obvious ly ADHD but we are still waiting on testing

I’m not a parent, nor will I ever be, but I was once a 9 year old. And yes, I have ADHD.

I suspect sometimes my son might have ADHD, but he’s only 4 so it’s kind of hard to diagnose. Right now we’re working on his Sensory Processing Disorder and ways to manage that so he isn’t disruptive in class and can sit still long enough to actually learn.

Getting diagnosed is hard. My daughter was an extremely difficult toddler. I knew nothing about ADHD but I knew something was off. I begged for help from multiple sources but got nowhere. Conversation went like this (I’m paraphrasing).

Me: This isn’t normal.
Professional: Well she is two/three/four. It’s normal for a child that age to have tantrums/be defiant/wet herself/whatever else
Me: But this is my second child and my son wasn’t like this.
Professional: Every child is different
Me: I need help! I am literally going insane!
Professional (condescending): Parenting is hard.

Fast forward to grade 1, parent-teacher conference.
Teacher: This isn’t normal.
Me: I know! Thank you! Thank you!
Diagnosed be paediatrician immediately after seeing teacher’s letter.

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TLDR; This is such a familiar conversation. You go mama. Trust your instincts.

I know right!!??? I love my pediatrician, but she had a similar reaction when I told her the early childhood mental health coordinator suggested my son might have Sensory Processing Disorder. I was lucky that I already had HUGE amounts of support from his school/daycare and his teachers. Every parent teacher conference was basically “He’s so bright and funny and sweet, but he just won’t sit and listen and keep his hands to himself during group time.” They were the ones who suggested bringing in the county ECMH advisor to evaluate him and make suggestions. She gave us some ideas to try, which helped, but further suggested I get him into OT services, but I had to really push with my Ped to get the prescription. It was those exact words “He’s 2/3/4 and it’s normal to be hyperactive/distractable etc.”

I get the same reaction from friends and family who I tell about the SPD. The seem to think I’m overreacting because it’s “normal” 4 year old behavior. Probably because I’m constantly griping about the cost of the OT and my worry over his difficulties. I usually fall back on some of my ADHD explanations.

“Yes, all four year olds are crazy active and have trouble following directions SOMETIMES. His behavior is 10 times worse than the other 26 peers in his class. It doesn’t happen SOMETIMES, it happens so frequently that they keep a daily log. He’s disruptive to the other kids’ learning and his own. It is harmful to his learning process. If 26 children can sit at carpet and follow along with the teacher, and one child consistently cannot seem to do that, but wanders around or rolls on the floor or grabs/touches his friends, don’t you think a little intervention is in order???”

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Same. The 1st grade teacher was my only ally when it came to diagnosis. Everybody else went “he’s a boy” (so is half his class, what’s your point), “he’s just bored because he’s clever” (it goes well beyond “just bored”, sorry), “It will get better with time” (it got worse).

I don’t know how long it would have taken to diagnose him if I hadn’t come up with ADHD through my own research and found a specialist who actually knew what she was talking about, arguing all the way with my husband about it (he is constantly trying to downplay the symptoms and pretend this isn’t a big deal).

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You go Mama Bear! My biggest fear with my son is that I won’t have the ability to follow-thru on this type of action, fighting uphill all the way for my child’s needs. I’m terrified my ADHD will rear it’s ugly head, and I’ll just let it go because he’s doing “OK” and “hanging in there” and it’s easier to just let it go.

Hi, sorry I am late to the parent party. I have a 5 year old suspected adhd/autism. We are awaiting diagnosis. He has just started school. Things are beautiful but exhausting at the min change in routine have started school. I have had very little time to log in at mo.

Another mom to a brain here - she’s 8 and we are doing the testing now for a diagnosis. She just hit 3rd grade and things went from hard to impossible.

That’s when I started to really have issues, 3rd grade.

It first started in the 1st grade where the teacher wanted to hold me back, but after she dissected a cow eye in class and seeing how interested and how much I got it, she didn’t recommend it.

But in the 3rd grade, that’s when I started getting more issues, grades starting to slip, more complaints from the teacher, and just the general concern. My mom finally got me diagnosed midway in the fourth grade, started taking medication and there was a full GPA point improvement.

My mom has also said that the hardest decision in her life was the decision to put me and my brother on medication. I was actually diagnosed and recommended to take medication much earlier but my mom ignored it first. Didn’t want to use medication as a crutch. So just know that whatever you decide, know it’s not an easy decision for anyone.

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Thanks. I know how your mother feels. I have gone back and forth on it, but the more I think on it, I think meds may be needed. She tells me she just cant keep going like this. I think given the choice she will want meds too.

My daughter more than likely is an ADHD person. As am I. But neither of us have been evaluated yet. I’m working on that B4 we take her for evaluation. But I can guarantee she has “it”. Creative as anything. She shows all the signs. As did/do I.

I am a parent of at least one child with adhd! My second son was diagnosed last year.

I’m thinking of having his older brother assessed for inattentive type as he is struggling massively with attention and focus and cannot follow instructions or remember simple routines.

Yep I’m ADHD and my 6yo son is