CBT hasn’t actually ever worked for me. I learned to talk in rather abstruse psychological terms about all the things which I already knew were going on. Through the course of a lot of talk therapy, I developed a new vocabulary for some old experiences, a vocabulary of larger words with higher approval-ratings among psychologists and psychiatrists. But I still can’t function in a day job. No change at all, really. Love school, hate work, can’t stand being a minion near the bottom of the totem pole, can’t understand how people suck it up, come home crying and gnashing my teeth after the first day, getting suicidal by the first week, getting homicidal by the second week. They send me to CBT? I get to say I’m “considering harmful acting out episodes” and “experiencing extreme dysphoria” instead.
So, I personally am trying to take the opposite approach, of reducing the amount of time that I spend in over-analyzing, re-hashing, and re-living some of the past experiences that may have led to my ADHD. I think CBT has a lot of benefits, but after you start to recognize your non-helpful thought-patterns and your potential triggers, sometimes it’s better to not dwell on the negatives. Re-training your brain can be done by NOT running over the same old ruts, over and over. Running over the same old ruts can, in one sense, help you understand and jump out of the rut; but it can also, in another sense, simply dig the rut deeper. I think this other approach is rather a new understanding among caregivers and the psychological community, but it’s helping me, to NOT be fascinated with my own traumas. I suggest Anna Runkle, “The Crappy Childhood Fairy,” on YouTube, for a start on this alternate CBT method.