There’s no point in saying “if only”'s, you probably already know that.
But don’t look at that statement as a I know this and don’t brush it off, but as the phrase goes, “no point in crying over spilled milk.”
But take a minute to think why is that?
Think of the importance of it, and think about what contemplating “if’s” brings to your life? or more than likely what it doesn’t bring to your life.
Don’t get me wrong, I get how this comes off, and I can take a guess at the thought in your head already.
“if only it was that easy.”
I’m not saying that it’s easy, if these things we already knew, were so easy to just follow, drug addiction, actually any addiction wouldn’t be a problem.
Someone who has an addiction is aware a lot of the time, that the addiction is not good for them.
But that doesn’t make it any easier in stopping that addiction, otherwise we could simply tell someone why the pros of a drug do not outweigh the cons in their situation and then.
POOF! we wouldn’t have an opioid epidemic in America.
But in reality we know that’s not how that works, nobody’s perfect, we’re human, we all have flaws.
Some we will overcome and some we won’t, that’s just human nature.
But this doesn’t mean we just watch a wait for nature take it’s course either.
When you look at let’s say an aspect of yourself or life, that you would want to ameliorate or changed, get rid of etc. It’s important to analyze it as objectively as possible.
Look at the potential pros of it, or of changing it, or the pros of getting rid of it.
Look at the potential cons of it, or changing it, or the pros of getting rid of it.
Then get a level of confidence of it’s importance, it could be a sensation that you get the confidence from, maybe a sense of intuition of how important this aspect of your life is, in either keeping it or changing. Both the positive and negative consequences of taking actions against it or choosing not to do so, choosing not to chose at the end of the day is still a choice we make.
Or maybe a more analytical level of confidence, a visual aid such as a chart, a numeric value, a chart of broken down factors and variables in relation to that aspect.
It’s sorta like treating ADHD.
It’s not an easy road or decision in treating ADHD, either way you will be subjected to consequences both good and bad.
You may react badly to 5 different medications, through the span of years of doctors appointments.
Stimulant medications, being statistically the most effective, all cause oxidative brain damage, and can stunt growth, they also statistically for ADHD tend to increase expected life expectancy rates, and decrease potential for substance abuse disorders.
The point being, it’s not easy, in the least bit its not easy, it’s plain arduous.
But you may feel defeated and about to give up after that 5th medication, feel what’s the point?
But if you chose not to try the 6th medication you deal with those consequences as well.
possibly reduced life expectancy or increased potential for substance abuse.
possibly you actually live longer, possibly you dodged and addiction to the medication.
And if you do chose to go to the 6th medication you deal with those consequences as well.
possibly cardiovascular damage, possibly paradoxical decomposition, worsening of ADHD symptoms over time.
possibly increased academic performance, increased quality of life, better career, improved social life
The thing is, there are many possible consequences, and the weights of all of these variables differ from personal preference and subjective situations, and it’s very hard to do in the treatment of ADHD, of which there’s decades of research in treating it, there’s educated professional that assist you, and yet it is still very far from easy.
For your situation there’s probably more confounding variables, there’s not going to be research directly on your life situation, maybe things similar may help, but the core take away point being, it is not easy,
but it’s important to be aware of what all the possible consequences of DO or DON’T, as well as choosing not to chose
And what consequences you are okay, with accepting, the ones you aren’t, and sometimes choosing the lesser evil.
It’s never easy, but it’s important to know what your buying.
P.S Do you mean I like work in a 12-step program or I partake in one, I think you meant the 1st just clarifying,
Either way I see it as a complement, even though if I did have a job in that field, which one day I may, I would look towards creating a program, for those that 12-step programs might not work for, creating a solution that isn’t there yet for the people who need it.
12-step programs work for some, and not for others, but there’s plenty of 12-step programs, so i’d want to create an addiction program that doesn’t exist for those that need it.
But either way, I am not in a 12-step program, and I do not work in one, but I do see it as a compliment, thank you, it actually made me smile, plus i’m not sure if I’m old enough to work in one, im not sure if there’s requirements, i’m only 17 so idk if i’d have to be 18 for it.