Look for solutions to helping me quit biting the dry skin on my cuticles and knuckles. I know - it’s f*cking disgusting but it’s practically impossible. I was able to stop biting nails after using clear coat for them but have moved on to cuticles. I mostly do it when driving or watching tv/movies. For driving I bought driving gloves and that helps a lot to just provide a barrier but something more for everyday would help. Keeping them moisturized seems to help as they don’t feel so sharp and callous so maybe that would be a solution but seeing what other peeps think. Thank you in advance!
Yea the best peace I’ve made with this habit is that I’m not alone and ADHD is the likely reason.
I’ve had mixed success with Fidget Spinners; but the moment the anxiety of some task (especially subconsciously) hits a certain pressure: I’m feeling burning, cracked skin before I even realize the last 2 hours were spent undoing any progress made in the last week.
This is one of those executive functioning things I think, certainly in terms of building up a regiment of actively stopping ourselves from doing it (as that requires consistency and constant attention). So there’s a double dip in terms of difficulty for us to reduce the habit.
Maybe you and I can do some peer motivation for each other by agreeing to:
- Keep track of how many times we bite or scratch at our fingers each day.
- Maybe record what was going on at the time we caught ourselves doing it.
- Report the daily totals to this thread as a follow-up post each day.
- Maybe share some situations when it happened, if comfortable doing so.
That will at least start us on the path of improving conscious awareness of when, [possibly] why, and how often we’re doing this. Then we can maybe start implementing some cognitive behavioral techniques towards slowly reducing the frequency thereof.
Let me know; I’m in and ready if you are!
Hello, I used to have a big problem with similar biting, I don’t think there is an easy fix, but just being aware helps to combat this. I’m at a point where I usually notice as soon as I start biting, then can stop it early, before I get to far in, just try and break the habit down a little bit each time you catch yourself doing it.
This came up recently, maybe these threads can help you.
I think this is a good idea for something to record for a weekly post and try to understand the what and the why. So maybe if you want to start keeping record we can do it on a day coming up and keep a 7 day tally of how man instances and what the circumstances were is a great idea - thank you!
goodie. we start tomorrow 7/28
Official Count = 15 | Likely Count = 35-35 | Main Reason: Anticipation anxiety on starting tasks
Official Count = 12-15 (It’s a range bc some instances had multiple returns to biting)
Likely Count = ~20?
Main Reasons = Driving without gloves to take out trash (in my town we have to take the garbage to a transfer site), watching TV.
I think my numbers were down because I was remaining cognizant of this tallying and then my wife wrapped my fingers with neosporin and medical tape in the evening because my knuckles were bleeding. Cuticle/knuckle biting in SoCal with dry arid conditions = dry cracked hands. But I think that’s my best solution is literally putting a physical barrier between my teeth a knuckle meat, lol. Good luck today brotha!
Official Count = 5 | Likely Count = 25-35 | Main Reason: Anticipation anxiety on starting tasks, force of habit otherwise
Also I’m in Arizona, and have similarly been using band-aids as a solution when things get too far.
Official Count = 3
Likely count = 5
I think our numbers are decreasing bc were remaining cognizant to it and even though we’re technically strangers are still feeling a sense of accountability to each other lol. Plus once I started wrapping with medical tape THAT is now becoming a habit lol. So if that’s the new habit, but results in less destructive tendencies, I’m all for that. Undoing 30+ years of destructive habitual behavior feels amazing.
Official Count = 0 | Likely Count = 25-35 | Main Reason: Losing focus on this.
But posting this message also motivated me to start back up today.
Official = 0
Likely = 1
Yeah man, it’s okay to struggle but you can do this and get back up like Rocky Balboa. Wrap those fingers with medical tape. It only took me 2 days for them to stop hurting, feeling cracked and bleeding.
I have this problem. I just bought a special nail polish that tastes awful, but is safe to eat. I will keep you posted on if it works. My sister used it, and it helped her stop putting her fingers in her mouth.
As an update, it has been a solid week since I chewed on my hangnails. They are starting to heal. That nasty nail polish works.
I’ve had so many problems with hangnails, including painful infections, but I feel like I’m getting a grip on it.
I didn’t try to stop myself from doing it, that never works for me, so I looked at other solutions. Now I carry a pair of nail clippers with me everywhere, and anytime I notice I’m picking/biting, I pull it out and cut off the dry/hanging bits. Now there’s nothing for me to bite/pick at! I’ve also ended up buying quite a lot of nail clippers so I can have on in each bag, the bathroom, the bedroom, and anywhere else I might leave it.
That said, I do currently have a band aid on my left thumb bc I didn’t notice I was biting at a hangnail until I had irritated my skin enough for it to be painful :’)