I so feel you! I’ve tried dating apps, but the initial small talk is excruciating. Someone will send me a message of “Hi!” and that’s it. THAT’S IT? Then it will be something like “How’s your day going?” or “What movies do you like?” and I’ll reply with a long, rambling response with jokes and references to things in their profile (to show I’m actually paying attention) and…no reply. I prefer getting to know people with less pressure, like you hang out in person and realize there’s chemistry, or you interact on Twitter or Facebook and get to know each other without the pressure of “THIS IS A DATING APP, SO WHERE’S THE ROMANCE ALREADY?” But it can be hard to meet people in person and it seems like most people I know are already in relationships, especially the interesting ones.
So I don’t have any answers, but I share your pain.