I am having difficulting having my needs met and communicating my needs to my new roommates. When I moved in two months ago, I tried to set up a meeting with my new roommates to understand the ground rules, cleaning schedules, and how to utilize the common spaces. However, they didn’t want to discuss any of this with me and denied the meeting. They just briefly went over some rules over messaging. Now we only communicate with Facebook messenger and it’s only when I am doing something wrong in the apartment, like leaving a dish too long in the sink or leaving the bathroom door open when I left some toilet cleaning material in the toilet to soak, so I could clean it easier.
This way of communicating is difficult because I still don’t know the basics of the apartment and how they like things done. It is also lowering my self-esteem and activating my rejection sensitivity dysphoria to be constantly criticised and for that to be the only relationship I have with my roommates. I don’t know how to bridge the gap between them and form a healthy relationship with them when they are being really standoffish and unwilling to meet up to discuss what they expect of me and the apartment. I would like to be more friendly and at least form a basic friendship and not have things so tense in the apartment. I feel like I’m walking on eggshells and I don’t how to make things better for everyone or to make the place more welcoming.
Do you guys have any tips?