Hi, I’m Sel. I’ve been following the YouTube channel on and off for weeks now, wondering if I have ADHD. It’s been such a relief to watch the videos and think ‘other people do that too’. I’ve been talking to my father about it (since we do so many similar things and think in similar ways) and we think that we’re both ADHD. I talked my therapist into testing me for ADHD and got the results today
Basically, her verdict was that I’m not struggling enough to be ADHD. I was gifted in school, and I’m not failing at my job, so I can’t be ADHD. A friend linked me to articles about ADHD and gifted diagnosis and it rings true for me. She read it over too as a teacher and friend and said ‘That’s you. That’s how you’ve been struggling.’ I agree.
I’m in my 40s so I’ve basically learned to adapt to most of the behaviors that I answered questions about for the test. I’ve worked hard to do well at work, and I’ve been working on my personal relationships so that I can be improve that aspect of my life.
I feel like because my struggles aren’t as obvious, that means I can’t have a problem. Logically I know this isn’t true, but it still feels like I’m being dismissed because things aren’t ‘bad enough’ or I’m being penalized for being able to adapt to certain situations. My therapist also said that because I can focus (extreme focus for things that interest me and forced focus on things that bore me) I can’t be ADHD.
I guess I joined the forum to see if other people relate to this or to being 40 something and suddenly what was working isn’t quite as helpful as it used to be.