This got me thinking and I think I’ve had an ephiphany.
So I hate making phone calls if I can avoid it, but I like texting. I’m better than the rest of my family. I’ve had a couple jobs over the years that required me to use the phone a lot, so I’ve gotten less anxious about it. (Confidence with experience and all) My mother’s side of the family actively avoids phone calls if they can. It’s almost a phobia. Well, maybe not even almost.
I’d never thought before about the fact that impulsivity might be behind our aversion to the phone. So, as a brain, I am impulsive and often talk without thinking, which we all know can cause huge problems. So, if brains are afraid of saying the wrong thing because we’ve spent our lives doing so and suffering the consequences, it seems completely logical that we would fear phone calls! And conversely like texting because we can curate what we say!
EDIT: It’s not just impulsivity. When I’m on the phone I can often get distracted by something and completely miss what the other person said, which comes across as rude and indifferent and feelings get hurt. With texting, if I get distracted they don’t really know it, because I’ll reply eventually.