Just found this community. Seems like a great resource. I’m a 36-year-old husband and father of three boys, first diagnosed with ADHD when I was 13.
I’m a lifelong over-extender, over-committer with skills and interests all over the place. Along with three boys, a wife, a dog, a mortgage, and a full-time job, I also run a small business, which has had its ups and downs. This spring, we enjoyed a hugely successful project. I couldn’t have been more proud. But just yesterday, I received some feedback from some folks who worked with me who had some pretty scathing assessments of my leadership, and without saying so directly, rattled off a litany of ADHD symptoms. I’m having a pretty crappy day, rethinking and overthinking what I had considered a positive experience. It’s one of those times I want to wish this disorder away so I don’t have to be such a constant disappointment, with a running reputation of setting people up for failure.
It’s possible the situation isn’t as bad as it feels, but it feels bad, and I could really use some validation.