I get frustrated easily. Angry out of proportion to the situation. And then get “stuck”! Some people can get angry and get over it quickly (if not also easily). That’s not me . . . And I assume not many other Brains.
And biggest problem is that these situations occur mostly with my wife. I know my ADHD and poor “executive control” is a large factor. But not the only factor. The brain, my brain, is not uni-dimensional. I deal with depression, anxiety, and some OCD. Years ago when I “lost it” with my wife she asked a brilliant question: “Are you angry . . . Or are you anxious?” My immediate reply: “I’m angry because I’m anxious”. It was at that moment I promised her that I would see someone about medication (for the first time). I started on a minimal dose of Prozac. First day I felt “weird”; Second day “Buzzed”; and Third day it was like the clouds parted and I felt calm / less anxious & depressed. But none-the-less . . .
To complicate matters, my wife does not like (nor should she!), but more to the point, does not tolerate when I become obviously annoyed (she would say “angry”). We’ve been married 46 yrs. I’m 73 she 74. We are solid. Been through some rough patches, but are not in danger of splitting. But yet, the quickness with which I react, the annoyance / anger I display, and the difficulty de-escalating are not helpful . . .
I still take Prozac, now with Wellbutrin. Tried stimulant medication but that negatively impacted my BP.
I meditate and bike (indoor, stationary) . . . But not consistently!!
So, there are “No easy answers!” . . . Are there!!
But needed to get this out there and would appreciate support and any ideas any of you care to offer.
Struggling in NJ (USA)