Hello! I feel very weird posting this, but I got diagnosed over a year ago with ADD.
My dad was diagnosed with ADD before I was born, and whenever I’d forget to do homework, or get distracted in class, or misplace things, my mom would always say that it was due to “learned behavior” from my dad. She basically said that I didn’t have ADD, I was just mimicking ADD symptoms and that no research actually looked at if a child could be replicating ADD in a parent without actually having it.
Flash forward to college where I was struggling my Junior year with a bunch of research, homework, projects, and other endeavors. I’ve always had really good grades, and I was able to do well on and pay attention for the most part in class. But the stress got way too much, I read Hannah Hart’s book where she described her struggles and revealed that it was connected to her having ADD her whole life. That made me realize that maybe I did actually have it, and so I spent a long time waiting to decide if I should get tested- I did a bunch of research on the evaluation process and what ADD is, and when I went in to get evaluated, the doctor said that I do have ADD.
It’s been over a year with that answer, and I’ve graduated college, am in a professional career where I can focus on one thing at a time and I feel calm and like I’m able to manage everything. However, this calmness makes me feel like my mom was right and that I really was just overly stressed, mimicking ADD behaviors, or just faking it to give myself a reason for why I wasn’t succeeding.
I want to ask- has anyone else had similar feelings or experiences? Do I need to see if I need to get a second diagnosis? Is it common for ADD symptoms to ebb and flow with stress or am I just faking it?