Hello! Just a quick intro on me, and then asking for some help with getting diagnosed.
I’m a 42 year old mom who teaches performing arts. My son was recently diagnosed, and in my research for him, I have become nearly convinced that I have ADHD As well. I’ve been struggling in recent years, and this diagnosis would make a lot of sense. (I’ve been struggling my whole life, in a sense, but motherhood has really done me in! Lol)
I recently made the choice to get some help (all thanks to Jessica! ), so I made an appointment with a therapist. I’ve only been 3 times, but I’m not sure she’s working out. She has given me no testing/questionnaires, has asked me very little about my achedemic history, and seems to be sold on the idea that my symptoms are due to anxiety. Now, anxiety is CERTAINLY an issue, but I am convinced it’s more caused by my suspected ADHD, rather than the anxiety causing ADHD-like symptoms.
In all my research for my son, I began to realize the traits being described described me as a child. So I read some articles about adult ADHD, and ADHD in women… my mind was BLOWN at how much I related to it all. I learned about the genetic component, and how mine was a common story (your kid is diagnosed, then you are). I took an online test and scored at 75%, and the online test for women I scored a 95%!!!
I had been struggling a lot in recent years with what seemed to be anxiety issues at times (which I believe is playing a part here), but ADHD seemed to be looking like a bigger part of the picture, and perhaps more at the root of the anxiety. (Stress plays a big part, too, but even that seems to be amplified by the ADHD).
So as I said I scheduled in with a therapist. Trouble is, the therapist doesn’t think it’s ADHD. Her reasons are that a lot of my symptoms are present in anxiety, and she doesn’t see a lot of the “hallmarks of ADHD” in me.
But… the hallmarks she listed are more typical of boys. I’ve done a lot of research about adult ADHD in women, and I feel like she’s missing the mark. I honestly feel like she’s misinformed. I also realize, however, that she’s more knowledgeable on the subject than I am, as a whole, I just am not convinced she understands how ADHD presents differently in women. And honestly, I think she missed the mark on adult ADHD altogether. She said most of her clients with ADHD can’t sit still, are bouncing off the walls, can’t focus long enough to converse during a session… but she has no idea how hard I work at that.
I guess what I’m really wanting here is opinions from those of you who have been diagnosed - should I schedule with my GP to discuss this further? Or a psychiatrist? She recommended I try my son’s meds one day and see how I feel. She also recommended talking to my son’s psychiatrist the next time I’m there about myself, or at least the differences between ADHD and anxiety. (I’m not very comfortable with that - would rather keep his appointments focused on him.) She also said I was a “tough nut to crack”, and that she wasn’t sure which one or both were going on with me, but suspects it’s anxiety.
Any advice you might have would be so greatly appreciated!