I need a better system/script:
TL;TR. How can I stop/curb/transfigurate my habit of talking over people?
Yesterday I did the loud “loud white middle aged male schtick (with an extra helping of ADHD)” and it went badly.
Whoda thought? Well I’m sure it crossed my mind to not just blurt out whatever I was thinking but it was at such speed that it left itself embedded somewhere in my skull, but nowhere near my consciousness.
Context (please): I was at one of those ‘teaching at university x’ seminars with a bunch of people that I may never see again even though we all work for the same entity. It was in town so I thought to queze in a few errands (I have a broken fountain pen and wanted it fixed, unfortunately getting that done meant I arrived 5 minutes late to the opening, barge through the front door, exclaim ‘I’m late’ (no ‘sorry’ prefix, now that I think of it). The walk in the morning sun down the mall was awesome.
I took my newly found medication, dexamphetamine, in the hope it would make me more attentive. It’s been playing up on me lately and … maybe another time or other thread hey. Back to the seminar, about to sit on my own, and instead got invited to a table; lovely people. At some point comfort set in and I got chatty. One of the people next to me seemed to be an expert in teaching but I have this bad speech habit of starting my sentences with “No, but …” (or so my family tell me) as well as the “typical atypical” interrupting, talking over etc. By the end of the day, well I must have done something (not clear) that when I gave a general apology I got a “Well, don’t do that again. Ever!”. I know I did bad, would have been nice to know the specifics of what she meant by “that”.
Having established this as something I really need to work on for my own good and the good of those around me; any tips/hints/hacks/pointers are greatly and gratefully appreciated.