O my god! I love seeing a heart here!
My life has been kind of upside down the past 3 years and it’s finally settling down a little right now.
I have been diagnosed at 18. And I always question why they never though about me possibly having ADHD when I was at elementary school cause clearly all the signs were there at that time. I always managed school because I was put on a too easy level. The level that I actually would’ve been able to reach I couldn’t because, well, undiagnosed ADHD. Could’ve landed my exams with a straight A if it wasn’t for the focussing issues I was having during the exam and actually getting complete black outs. It’s very frustrating, especially after the fact, that you could’ve reached your full potential of you only knew. That was the thing. I didn’t know.
All I’ve learned about my ADHD now is that I don’t see it as a disability anymore, but rather a difference in my brain structure being forced to live as a neurotypical being. And I’m not. I’m now learning to live with my brain and not fight it. I can make my home ADHD friendly (for instance, there’s fidget toys everywhere ) so I don’t have to live in a way that my brain isn’t. And I’m happy about it. It doesn’t have to be a disability. That’s bull crap to me. It’s not. It is in a neurotypical world, yes. But really, it shouldn’t be.
I have my family and boyfriend who are all amazing hearts and they’ve been very supportive. My mom has difficulty understanding why something like vacuuming or doing the dishes can be so hard for me. But she will never say that I should try harder or that I’m lazy cause she knows I’m not and she knows I’m trying very hard. She did make me out for being lazy before though cause she didn’t know I had ADHD at that time. But good thing I’m very forgiving. My boyfriend actually helps me a lot. He’s also very forgiving and sometimes helps me to actually accept that I’m not always gonna get the dishes done if my ADHD decides to play up that day. I can always try tomorrow. And if I need help, he’s there. Even if he’d just came home from a hard day of work. He’s there for me.
I think what’s most important is that you support your through thick and thin. And it may not always show immediately, but I’m sure it would mean the world to him. And even if his needs might be a little greater then yours, you still have to make sure your needs are met too. So if you need a moment of help yourself, don’t hesitate to ask. We’re still capable of helping other people.