Hi from Australia!

Hi everyone! I’m a 24 yr old male from Western Australia and only recently discovered what ADHD really was. Ever since I was a kid, I’d always had issues with being distracted and poor short term memory (I lost quite a few belongings during school). I was a very smart student and consistently recieved high marks throughout most of school, but was never able to create good study habits, and ended up barely scraping through to university. Meanwhile, although I had a solid friend group, I had trouble making more friends and was seen as weird by a lot of people, especially in high school. In the few years after I graduated I lost the rest of my friends as I was still having trouble with extreme emotions, especially after my first relationship ended badly.
The university workload was too much for me to handle, and I dropped out after half a year after being overwhelmed near the end of the semester. I started an IT course the next year, and I was definitely more interested in the subject, but still had trouble studying and focusing, and failed half of my units in my first year. I have failed more units since and am currently still in that course with one unit left. I attributed my failings to being lazy or stupid as the people around me seemed to be figuring it out; why couldn’t I? I often procrastinated and stayed home instead of working or socialising as I had failed too many times before, and didn’t know what I could do.
Not long ago, I discovered the ADHD subreddit, and through that, How To ADHD. Suddenly I could make sense of why so much of my life had seemed so difficult compared to my peers, and that I wasn’t alone. Seeing the tribe share their stories and support one another has given me hope for the first time in a long time.
Yesterday I went to a psychiatrist to see if I could be diagnosed, and he has recommended I take medication, which I’ll be starting to do soon. Even though this is the first time I’ve built up the courage to post about it, all of you have helped me already just by being here, so thankyou :slight_smile: I look forward to being part of the tribe!

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@deanquaife

Welcome . . .

“Suddenly I could make sense of why so much of my life had seemed so difficult . . .”

Though I suspected that I had ADHD I finally realized it after going to a conference on the subject. I got behind the wheel of my car ready to drive home, but just quietly sat there . . . saying nothing. My wife asked me what was wrong. Tears started rolling down and I said, “Now I think I know why everything has been so difficult for me all these years!” Your words and mine are almost carbon copies. I spoke them over 20 years ago but remember them exactly (I’m now 73). Shortly after that I was evaluated and guess what? . . . I had ADHD. That should not have surprised me as my son (then 22) had been diagnosed at the age of 6. My son often called himself “stupid” when he struggled with reading, writing legibly, riding a bike, (Etc.). It took him 7 years to complete 4 years of college, going to 3 different schools. Dropped out twice and worked for awhile. Once he finally discovered his area of interest and knew why he was in school, he finished up. He graduated in computer engineering and after graduation (and ever since) has worked as an electrical engineer (in the field). He likes hands-on, problem solving work. Not surprising his 11 y.o. daughter too has ADHD. The :apple::apple: did not fall far from the :deciduous_tree::deciduous_tree:!

So this is the place I have come to everyday since joining 6 weeks ago.

Will look forward to learning how things go for you with your doctor’s visit.

Stay in touch!

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Welcome @deanquaife! Posting makes you de facto part of the tribe :wink:

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G’day and welcome,

out of curiosity what’s the final subject you have to complete and out what you’ve done so far what has piqued your interest most?

I graduated from comp sci in Adelaide, a few years back now … and I’m doing ok programming, so asking in the event there is something specific I can help out with (as he realizes he may be over-committing :sweat_smile: )

Keepn it short and sweet, I’m supposed to be on the confuser because there’s a bunch of deadlines making a lovely wooshing sound as they fly me by.

Lui

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I feel that :pensive: I have to finish the second half of my final year project as it’s broken into two units and I failed the second one. I’ll have to talk to my coordinator to see what I’ll need to do to proceed

I’d say (although I don’t like software engineering as a subject overall :laughing:) that design patterns like the composite pattern helped me think about coding in a different light and what I could potentially do with what I’ve written. That’s kept me interested enough to keep writing although I’m still not sure whether I’d rather do that or something in the vein of tech support instead.

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Aussie unis are pretty good at getting students out, as far as I’ve seen from working at one for the last 7 years.

The best coding book chapter I’ve seen is “Read great code” in the The Hitch-hickers Guide to Python, (bits of it are online for free, or see if it is in the library, the ebook is best as it is riddled with hyperlinks) . The first example is a little python utility called howdoi and it might inspire you.

Is the problem of the final year project not inspiring? one of my final year eng projects was with an electronics prof who was into the occult, so I ended up in a dark room measuring corona discharge eminating from my finger tip at 10kV+, I was Thor, or at list my index finger was.

Don’t worry about the job carrer path at this stage, focus on getting your ticket, you’re actually near the end and in the meantime get on top of things.

Finally, I have not tried meds, yet. I did get some help a decade ago and the only thing I didn’t like in hindsight was that there was no after sales support: by that I mean that they were not very helpful with setting up strategies or habbits that would keep me out of trouble.

I say this because I recently re-read bits of my copy of “Delivered from distraction”, and it made it clear that whatever help you get should also incorporate some training/habit forming I think it’s called cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) so that you can handle things better, and avoid what happened to me, where I neatly tucked away the fact that my ADHD is like a character finger print not a bad haircut.

gotta go, kiddy duties.

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The project I was working on last year never inspired me from the very start tbh. As far as I’m aware I’ll need to be working on a different project with a different group this semester so maybe there’s hope yet.

I’ve been working on my mindset quite recently as I don’t have access to meds just yet, and I’ve found a book on CBT that I should probably get around to reading :laughing: Thanks for the suggestions, I appreciate the help

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Cheers.

Ps can u drop the cbt book tittle? ta

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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Made Simple: 10 Strategies for Managing Anxiety, Depression, Anger, Panic, and Worry by Seth Gillihan

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