I’m on Concerta too, doesn’t do much for me, but the Ritalin I was started on is illegal in Japan except for narcolepsy, so Concerta it is.
I find it VERY disturbing that you’d refuse good medical advice simply because a person specializing in your issue doesnvt have it himself. That’s plain dumb, and not intelligent at all. Could be caused by a certain type of arrogance common among people with above average IQ, though… You wouldn’t go to a doctor and refuse to let him take out your appendix unless he showed the scar where he had his taken out.
That said, seeking ADDITIONAL information (all anecdotal) from others with ADHD is always a good idea, as coping strategies can be adapted, and gives you more options. Like the suggestions @FranB has been posting.
Did you take the IQ test before or after taking Concerta, that might make a difference too. And yes, 130 is gifted, 140 is highly gifted. Doesn’t feel very ‘gifted’, though, I can tell you. Helps you learn faster and process information and problem-solving faster, but also increases rates of depression and anxiety a lot, so… Gift? Sort of?
I still think a coach could help you a lot, and some coaches have had ADHD themselves, if you really think that’s a deal-breaker.
As for what research to read, sadly the research on ‘high-functioning ADHD’ (my doctor’s term for what @FranB calls 2E) is very limited but you can find some rare studies. Studies on medications, their effects on different people relative to their disability with ADHD, how the medication does almost nothing to neurotypical people, that might be of interest. Other than that, whatever you’re interested in. The internet is vast and Google, if used right, is your best first place to look, combined with Wikipedia.
As for exactly how to deal with acceptance, that’s sush a personal and individual thing, we can all share our experiences, but it’s really up to you. But there are several ‘high-functioning’ people in the forum, and from what I have been able to tell so far, we have a few things in common, most importantly, we’re able to use IQ to compensate in almost anything, but get stuck in ONE main thing where IQ doesn’t do it for us, but medication usually does. What that ONE thing is, is individual, for me it’s executive function, gettinf started with something I’m not interested in or pumped to do anyway… Nightmare… Concerta does little, Ritalin did some, big difference even though they’re both MPH.