Had my mother over for dinner. After dinner she started cleaning up. I was on the couch watching a movie with my son. She wanted to know where ziplock bags were. I told her. She couldn’t find them. I want into the kitchen to show her. On the way I grabbed the uneaten piece of pizza from my son’s plate, to add to the ziplock bag. I didn’t grab the plate. I mean, it’s like I barely noticed it was there. It didn’t register that I should bring that in too. And after I gave her the pizza I went back out to sit on the couch.
She EXPLODED. It was all “you couldn’t be bothered to bring in the plate? Why aren’t you helping me clean up?” It escalated. She stormed out.
Over text I tried explaining I hadn’t meant to ignore her or the plate. I just didn’t notice it or think to help. She scoffed. I suggested, again, that she watch some HowToADHD videos. She said it was a ridiculous claim that I didn’t see the plate and no video was going to convince her otherwise.
I’m just so angry and frustrated right now. She won’t talk to me over the phone, and she won’t listen to me when I describe what myadhd looks like, and she won’t listen to any experts, and I just don’t know how to navigate fights like this.
Any advice brains?