I have my answer for the first question, first I’ll introduce myself.
My names Kelsey and I’m on the first year of high school. I have ADHD (inattentive), situational depression, anxiety, OCD, SPD and verrryy low self esteem, ANY WAY IM GETTING CARRIED AWAY
So pretty much, I do the same thing. My parents are separated so if both of them are working I’m home alone. Once they leave I usually curl up on my bed/couch and start having a mental breakdown… yay… so pretty much I think it’s not a good or normal thing, and maybe you should have a talk to her and see if anything else is going on, and consider maybe start taking her to a school counsellor if her school had one.
And about the teacher… my mother is kinda like this…
When we had the ADHD diagnosis, my physiatrist made me, my mum, and my dad fill out a survey/test stating what I do or how I act at home and in social situations such as school, friends, ect. My father and I filled them out there but my mother took hers home to do. I was at hers that day and I say her sheet filled out on the draw, so I decided to look at what she did. She did the opposite of what was happening. One that stood out was: “Positive and Optimistic- 2 out of 3. The thing that infuriated me about this was how she always told me how negative and depressing I’m being, when I can just be happy, and I’m choosing to be depressed.
The next week the physiatrist compared the results, and they were just how I had expected. My dad and I had the same results, what was actually happening, my mum… not so… my physiatrist wasn’t very shocked as we had told her before hand that my mum would do this, and she went on with the diagnosis.
In the end, we read through the symptoms and it was clear to everyone, including my mum, that I definitely had inattentive ADHD. To this day I’m still told I can do better and I should be getting better grades, even though I’m passing. And I always forget the simplest tasks.
So I think you should talk to her teacher and even though she/he might not see it or believe you at first, go through the symptoms with him/her and they might end up seeing a problem, and might be able to adapt leading situations to suit your child better.
You probably won’t take advice from a 12 year old, but I just wanted to try to help,
Thanks for reading,