(The topic heading is a nod to the old Rocky and Bullwinkle Show, in which the narrator always gave two equally hilarious titles.)
So, I’m in the middle of my big cross-country move.
- My wife divorced me and moved from Idaho to upstate New York (this is the first time I’ve mentioned the specific states… I’ve been hesitant to do so before, but I’m not feeling as hesitant than I used to be.)
- We have shared custody of our two younger kids (currently both under 10 y.o.), and they are the reason for my move, because I’d rather have custody of them every other week than every few months.
After being apart from my kids for over three months, I know I made the right decision (for my sake, because I miss them so much, and for their benefit).
Anyway, back to the adventure post…
I decided to make the journey into a memorable experience. I packed all my belongings (after selling, giving away, or throwing away anything I could do without). All my remaining possessions are packed in my minivan (and in a cargo bag on the roof rack). Instead of racing across the states in 3 days, I’m taking a more sane 5 days to cross the country.
I’m visiting states I’ve never been to before, and seeing sights I’ve never seen in person (Yellowstone was beautiful, and Old Faithful was amazing to watch), and stopping to visit an old friend (who had moved to Missouri a few years back) along the way! I’m buying postcards, and sending some ahead to my younger kids, and some behind to my grandkids (who are the same ages as my younger kids).
I figured, if I have to make a change in how I live my life, I’ll do it on my terms.
(It’s costing me half my meager retirement savings from my former underpaid university IT job. If I’d left it in the retirement system, it would have been just a meager monthly amount anyway. I’m planning to take the rest and try to put it towards work training, so I can increase my income… I’ve already used a little to sign up for ADHD coaching!)