What is it about the university that you like? What are some of the things you enjoy about the program or the opportunities you’ll have there? A lot of universities are interchangeable in SOME ways but not in the ways that matter. You might be able to get your English studies done at her university, but will it offer the same experience that you’re looking for? Sometimes the experience is unique, even by virtue of setting or faculty.
Relationships take effort. A way to drift apart is to not to. Making the effort to stay together such as planning regular visits, talking on the phone (not just text), chatting online or Skyping, and spending important things like anniversaries and holidays together. There’s definitely a chance that you two may grow apart as time moves on, especially as you continue to learn about yourselves, but for now if you want to stay together you have to make an effort. Long distance relationships can work so long as both partners are committed. For me, I maintained my LTR while I was at college for all four years and we both were several states away. We made regular use of the Greyhound buses, instant messaging, and spent a lot of time on the phone.
It can be hard to know the “right choice” for anyone. You may start at the school and find out it’s not what you wanted after all. The important thing is to find a university that appeals to you in important ways. What are some of the most important factors? Is it the major that is offered? The faculty? The clubs and organizations? The sports team? The city? The campus? The financial aid? The residence hall? The people who you also know who are going there?
Picking a university is about finding what you’re looking for right now, but also thinking ahead. What do you want to get out of your experience after four years or so? Can the university you’re looking at offer that?
I will say that I didn’t do a lot of research when picking schools. I applied to several but knew that I wanted to go to the one even though I’d never visited campus. I went solely because of the English program. I was fortunate in that the English program was good, but the rest of my college experience was even better. I feel like I grew a lot at college, and I’m not sure I would have had the same experience had I gone somewhere else.
No matter what, where you start is not where you have to end. You can transfer or change your mind. And so can she. If you guys want to stay together, you CAN make it work. But it will take work. Lots of it. And you’ll have to continue to work on getting to know each other as you both change and grow on this journey.