I do feel like I’m far behind my how I had imagined my life, and there are certainly times that I feel like I’m not completely grown-up. I’m 45 and newly-diagnosed.
You have a degree. I do not, even though it is an important life-goal of mine. I’ve been through 5 schools and 5 majors. I work at the last university I was attending, but I ran out of financial aid, and I lost motivation to pursue my last major. (Computer Engineering is a really hard major!)
I’ve been through several jobs (though I’ve rarely been without a job), and most of them were low-paying. It is only my current job that has paid adequately. It has taken me until 45 to get a good-paying job! I’ve been working Information Technology for 9 years, mostly in technical support, but without a degree or professional certs it was hard to move up, even with past supervisory experience.
I do have a family. I consider my family life to be my greatest area of success in my life. My wife and I have been married for almost 20 years, but it wasn’t easy. We had an off-and-on dating relationship. (She dated other guys, but I held out for her. We first met at 13 years old, and got married at 26.) For the first ten years of marriage, we went through a lot of relationship struggles, but I’ve never worked harder on anything then I have on my marriage, but it is so worth it! We have four kids,
I know that I’ll finish my degree someday. In the meantime, counseling and medication are helping me to do better at work (so that I can do well in my new job).
I hope that you get a good job to use your degree in, @ALADDIN. I’ve known some people who finally got into a good relationship in their 40s or 50s, so that can still happen for you too.