You didn’t say anything about it but I’m going to assume she’s also going through puberty.
If that’s not the case then this sounds like extremely worrying behaviour.
But if she is, then yeah, that sounds about right.
It’s difficult to paint a proper picture of a pubescent adolescent, because it’s all worrisome.
But I haven’t read anything so far that makes me worry about her as a person.
Of course, the idea of a 15 year old girl sleeping in a train station by herself with her trousers pulled down scares my organs inside out, and I’m not even her parent.
And the idea of her not finishing school, getting a diploma, or whatever I can imagine as a worst case scenario makes me uncomfortable as well.
But she’ll be alright.
Just by the fact that you’re here, asking for help, telling your story and being worried about your daughter tells me you’re both good parents.
You’ve taught her all the right things and you’ve shown her, for fifteen years, that she has two parents that love her until the end of the world.
Even if she feels disconnected from you right now, she knows that.
I’m not a parent, or a paediatrician, but pubescent adolescents inherently feel disconnected from the world, that’s why their friends start being so important to them, because they feel they are the only ones that understand them, and in a sense that’s true.
She’s basically starting to learn, among other things, that life is unfair because being alive means suffering, something we have come to terms with long ago, and we’re fine with that, that’s the package and we’re constantly making it as beautiful as we can despite of that.
But we can only cerebrally understand how it is to face that for the first time, her friends are living it themselves.
Taking that connection, and freedom, away from her is one of the few ways you can punish her for doing things that are wrong, but it also increases the gap.
I’m not coming with possible solutions on that one, I’m sorry.
But maybe you can tell her you understand that she wants to be with a friend if she feels bad, and allow her to go.
That might set up a frame where she feels you’ll understand some of her difficulties, and it might make you more accessible in the future.
On the ADHD part, yeah, a lot of us are prone to feeling emotions very intensely, we either have no particular emotions about something or feel it way too much, there’s no middle ground for moderate emotion distribution.
Pretty much just like puberty.
This can make the combination of the two particularly volatile.
That and the lack of impulse control, also seen in puberty, causes a lot of us to be a bit more of a loose cannon than we’d like, or a lot.
A friend of mine, also with ADHD, made plans with me for new years, and then suddenly went to a guy she only just met a few weeks before that.
She just couldn’t curb her excitement and wait a single day, even though she’s over 30.
Only after the fact, when everything calmed down in her head (and I got angry at her for it), could she see that her ADHD got the best of her.
She didn’t do anything dangerous, but her reality did kind of mold into what she wanted for a while.
Exactly those kinds of things give people the idea that people with ADHD just haven’t matured, but trust me when I say that she is one of the most mature and responsible people I know, when you ignore or see past the ADHD part, and the same counts for me.
But that’s not important for you right now, because a 15 year old girl just isn’t mature, that’s the point of being 15.
I just looked up Vyvanse and see that it’s lisdexamfetamine, exactly the medication I am on right now.
I have been on it for a little over 6 months now and I can do things for the first time in my life!
But I do collapse at the end of the day, I am spent. And that part is uncomfortable.
I don’t know if your daughter has the same effect as I do, but that’s what’s going on with me.
Your daughter suddenly doing things like taking social normative responsibilities sounds like a good thing.
Even though she feels depressed at the end of the day, people who are depressed all the time don’t tend to do those kind of things. (Although this does need attention if you continue with it.)
Watching her emotional state is important when taking medications like this, because they can average out someone’s emotions.
Sometimes that is a good thing (like in my case), but it can also be a little bit too much on a certain dose, or at all.
And then it can sometimes be difficult to feel more than ‘average’ happiness, and not get the same response from humor or an amazing personal event.
It can be difficult to measure a sense of reality in a 15 year old girl in every way, but this can start to be an issue for a select few of us.
You don’t need to worry that this will be an issue per se, but keep it in the back of your head.
These kinds of drugs are extremely potent, going both on and off them can have pretty drastic effects.
When I forget my medication, for example, my world starts becoming very boring and grey.
I can’t get myself to do anything outside of forcing it with sheer discipline, if at all.
Then I take my meds and BAM! I’m translating software, following an online university course, drawing, and doing the dishes.
Taking her off these medications, if she has ADHD and lisdexamfetamine worked for her, can have a similar effect.
Her brain has to go through all sorts of gymnastics to even get through the day again, not just schoolwork.
But if she doesn’t have ADHD it’s basically just drugs, drugs that are ‘harder’ than alcohol or weed.
Here’s some more information on it.
And some information on lisdexamphetamine (which turns into dexamphetamine in the blood).
And finally, how did she say she felt when taking Vyvanse/lisdexamfetamine?