Thank you for the suggests, @Lucy1
- Fun for me isn’t enough of a motivator. - It would have to be something that’s fun for me to do with someone else. (Left to myself, I gravitate to whatever takes the least amount of physical effort.)
- Regarding finding a workout buddy - I’m a family man, a homebody, and an introvert… So, I don’t do much outside of work and home. I a few friends, but no close friends that I’d go workout with. (My younger son is interested in learning martial arts, so I suggested we do martial arts workout videos together in the morning; but he never joined me, so I stopped doing it.)
- Classes have only worked for me if I’m getting graded on my participation. Even if I’ve paid for a series of classes, I’ll end up not going towards the latter half (unless there’s a grade involved).
- I generally do things solo, but as I mentioned in my first point, I gravitate towards doing low-activity things (like reading).
- If I can establish a routine, I can usually keep it going. The hardest part is getting started, and the second hardest part is keeping it going long enough to become a habit.
When we don’t have to wear masks and do social-distancing anymore, I think that the best idea would be to sign up for a martial arts class WITH my son.
An author by the name of Gretchen Rubin created a model of personality types she calls “The Four Tendencies”, about whether people are motivated to Meet or Resist expectations from within and/or from without:
- Upholders - meet inner and outer expectations
- Questioners - meet inner & resist outer expectations
- Obligers - meet outer & resist inner expectations
- Rebels - resist inner and outer expectations
I’m a textbook Obliger.
I put others’ needs and expectations before my own. I have a long, long list of things that I want to do, but unless one of those things is going to benefit others directly, I don’t have the wherewithal to actually do them!
(Which is why I can see myself going to a martial arts class with my son, but I didn’t pursue my own interest in martial arts very much back in my single days. I’ll “go to hell and back” to help others, but I’ll only “take the path of least resistance” for myself.)