I’m 45, and I just started meeting with a mental health counselor to be assessed for ADHD. I admitted to myself about ten years ago that I have persistent problems with attention and task completion that went beyond habits. Before that, I thought that I just had trouble with getting distracted and with forming good habits, and that if I could just figure out how to build those key habits, then my life would be successful. …yeah, it’s just not that simple. (I have tried to learn and practice numerous time-management, note-taking
The last ten years of my life have been a time of trial and discovery, which has made me look back on my life and realize that I have ALWAYS had trouble with attention. I resisted getting assessed for ADHD because I’m not outwardly hyperactive. It was actually anxiety due to a bad job situation that prompted me to contact the counselor.
On the bright side, I got a better job, so I almost cancelled the appointment. I did decide to keep the appointment to deal with the after-effects of the anxiety that I went through for so long (about 3 years), but changed my focus from Reason #1 for anxiety and Reason #2 for ADHD assessment…to flipping that.
I’m really glad that I did, keep the appointment, and I’ve now met with the counselor twice. Still waiting to see if I’ll be diagnosed with ADHD, but it’s clear that I have some form of Executive Function deficiency. Regardless, I want to know what can help me. I’ve got the job I wanted, that I feel like I had to fight a long uphill battle for, and I really want to do well at it.
I also want to re-enroll at the university where I work and actually finish a degree. (I’ve gone to 5 colleges, changed my major 5 times, am still 8 classes short of earning a degree. In my last school, the one I’m working at, I had to retake several classes.) While I did well enough in K-12, my struggles in college and with work projects, plus inattentiveness & memory issues at home that certainly irk my wife, have finally brought me to the point that I am seeking help.
I’m looking to learn whatever I can about how to live successfully with ADHD/Executive Function deficiency.