I’m Roger, 47 years old. I live in the south of the Netherlands. I was diagnosed with ADHD some 9 years ago. After I was diagnosed the puzzle fell together, finally I realized what my struggle in live was, why I was actually feeling like a fish trying to climb up a three. Why I failed at school, in jobs and in fact for some part in life. In the mean time I read almost everything I could find about ADHD and tried to find a way to understand what was wrong with me. Why I could not hold on to a steady job or finish that study I started with.
In the mean time a met a lovely girl whoI still am in love with, who understands me completely and we have two beautiful children. My son who is 4 years old and my daughter who is almost 2. My son has probably ADHD as well, but as he is only four years old, we don’t bother to get him diagnosed. If he has ADHD so be it. At least I have a lot more knowledge about ADHD than my parents when I was his age, and probably I can understand and help him better than my parents could. I don’t have any hard feelings about my parents. I know they did the best they could.
I suspect my trouble with ADHD isn’t in fact ADHD but a subcategory from it, who is named SCT or Sluggish Cognitive Tempo. As there is a lot of information about ADHD, I can’t seem to find any usefull info about SCT, rather then a Wikipedia page and some pages which descripe shortly what it means and how it differs from traditional ADHD.
In school and work I always had trouble to understand things as they were explained to me. I had to read it and ask about it over and over again. I can remember at one time the manager of the firm I worked for (who was in fact formerly a psychiatrist) recognized some of the symptoms from SCT and told me about it. At first I was really angry with him and sad about myself as I was trying so hard to do the job right, but I failed, even when I worked harder than anyone else. Later on, I realized he was right about everything.
I would like to know if you experienced the same issues with ADHD or SCT? Does anyone has an official diagnosis for SCT? Are there any good books or websites, rather then the one I mentioned or any other which are not only medical and try to describe the problem, rather then the solution. For those of you with SCT, how do you deal with it in daily life? I still wish to get a high school degree, but after 3 unsuccessful attempts I just stopped trying. Do you have any other useful tips and tricks about dealing with SCT regarding to this?
Thank you for your time reading all this!
I wish you all the best and I really hope to hear from you soon!