Nice one. Save up some money and go. Get it done, and then at least you’ll have a better idea about your situation. Knowing more about yourself can only be a good thing, even if it opens up a whole can of worms.
I’m not sure on what basis your counselor said that medication wouldn’t help you… I’d give them a try anyway, with the understanding that the first meds that you try may not be the right ones for you. See what the neurologist says.
I don’t really know what the difference is between a neurologist and a psychiatrist… I’m guessing that a neurologist would be all over brain/chemical interactions, and would run some tests to find out which direction to send you in.
My psychiatrist uses dexamphetamine as a base to prescribe to the majority of his patients initially. Then may change them to another if required. I was lucky that the dexys seemed to hit the spot first time.
As far as being able to afford it… I had a toothache last week. I went to the dentist straight away, even though I needed the money for something else (still bought a new laptop, now I’m broke…).
My point is, I had pain, so I went to see a professional and did something about it.
ADHD pain is less immediate, and there is the always the option of putting off treatment because, well… You will probably survive without it and can keep going the way you’re going.
But it’s a health problem that does need to be treated. For your own quality of life, as well as for those around you.
Bite the bullet, seek the treatment, and improve your life. You owe it to yourself and your family. It won’t be just you that you are helping.