I’m fortunate enough to work with a really great therapist who has offered me tons of useful advice in our time together. I’m curious what advice other brains have found useful, meaningful, or effective from therapists in the past. Could you share below? Maybe some of the advice will be useful to others. Maybe this can be a parking lot for good ideas.
Here are some of the things I’ve kept written down from my therapist:
- “It’s okay to ask for what you need even if you don’t get what you need.”
- “An imperfect process can still be a good process.”
- “When you think about the ‘What ifs,’ most of them usually don’t happen.”
- No matter how much you plan, you can’t predict what will happen. Be prepared to cope with whatever comes your way. And if you can’t, it’s okay to ask for help.
- “Discomfort is a part of life.”
- No one person is enough to stop someone else’s storm.
- Sometimes it’s not about being smart, it’s about making your heart happy.
- “You may never let it go.”
- Sometimes quicker isn’t better.
- “Sometimes the distance between the head and the heart is a million miles.”
- “You can’t stop loving someone on purpose.”
- The life you had before the trauma is over. There is no going back. Your new life will look different.
- “Forgiveness will come down the road, but for you, not for her.”
- “You have two choices: You can be at peace with it or you can be resentful.”
- It’s okay to have negative thoughts. What matters is what you do with them next.
- It’s okay to be the right kind of selfish.
Hope maybe some of that can help! If you have questions about the context of any specific one, please let me know!